© Michelle Chan
No matter who and where we are in life, many of us have certain expectations regarding different aspects of our lives. Just as how most things are interconnected in life, expectations are interwoven with hopes and dreams and, maybe even, childhood fantasies. Having expectations can bring us hope and lead us to continually strive for what we feel is best for us (i.e. career, partner). However, by having expectations, we must also be aware that some may never become realized, or in the way we imagined. It is very likely that reality may at times fall short. When that occurs, having certain expectations can lead us to feel discouraged and disappointed.
When that happens, what can we do to deal with the issue(s) at hand? Depending on who you are and where you are in life, you may either choose to continue on the same path and hope that changes will occur over time, or you may decide to stop and alter the path you once believed was right for you. Neither choice is right nor wrong. It is a personal and, oftentimes, difficult journey.
Some questions you might want to consider may include:
1. What led you to have this expectation?
2. Was the expectation realistic to begin with?
3. Consider who you are now and where you are in life, is this still something you strive for?
4. Is there another way to have your expectation(s) met?
5. Can this expectation be altered or changed in any way?
6. Are you willing to make the necessary changes?
7. Would it be better to continue on the path that you're on now or to change the course?
Whichever path you choose today, know that it is never too late to choose a different path tomorrow. Because what is right for the present, may not be suitable for the future. Please feel free to contact me if I can be of help to you in exploring what road or path is best for you!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." -Joseph Campbell
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Michelle Chan, M.A., LMFT